What is this “biblical manhood” all about?

In an email dialog in recent days, Perry, my dear brother in Christ, relayed in the most basic way what is at stake today for the hearts and minds of Christian men. Here it is pointblank:

“The goal is to facilitate and develop, intimate friendships AND
relationships with other Men.

What is being sought here is:

An environment to feel safe to express anything
A place to come to terms with all of our struggles with Pornography
How you treat your wife
How you actually pray with your wife and not just talk about it
Becoming the spiritual head in your home
How to trust another Man
How to trust anyone
Becoming transparent
More struggles with Porn
Your marriage
Your kids
Faith issues
Not lying about porn
Life’s struggles
Freedom in our Lord”

I have read and re-read that list, and I must say, being born into a pastor’s family, and having been one myself, and having know church culture my entire life, I have not found this to be a reality “in the church”. But, I have found a measure of it, with a group of fellow travelers who meet for coffee and heart to heart fellowship on Sunday mornings. It is a growing reality, slowly being built over time, with a good crusty layer of “trust” being the foundation.

Many if not most men in the body of Christ today are in a difficult place, where the bulk of life in the church is focussed on “unmanly” attributes and attitudes. Jesus has been reduced to an androgynous man, which the dictionary defines as:

1. being both male and female; hermaphroditic.
2. having both masculine and feminine characteristics.
3. having an ambiguous sexual identity.
4. neither clearly masculine nor clearly feminine in appearance: the androgynous look of many rock stars.

This is the “gentle nurturing Jesus” that we are bombarded with. This is how “effective ministry” is portrayed. This is the place in which women dominate, de facto, simply because men, have failed to lead, have failed in being men in their homes, their work, their relationships, and failed in being men in the body of Christ. We cannot blame the women. Man in the garden failed to lead, and throughout the ages, Adam’s descendants have continued to fail to lead and then blame the woman! Hello?! Men… it is time to reclaim the place of biblical manhood where both males and females fulfill their roles and functions in family, in society and in the church.

Men appear as emasculated and as eunuchs in the body of Christ as a direct result of this. What is a eunuch anyway? Simple, the dictionary defines it as:

  1. A castrated man employed as a harem attendant or as a functionary in certain Asian courts.
  2. A man or boy whose testes are nonfunctioning or have been removed.
  3. Informal An ineffectual, powerless, or unmasculine man.

Do you see that? In an informal manner, the term eunuch has come to mean “ineffectual, powerless or unmasculine man”. This is widespread in both our society and in the church. Where are the “real men”? Where are the men learning what it is to be a real man? Where is there a safe place for men to come together and to learn together what it means to be a real man, a man after Jesus’ own heart? This is why men need each other, and need to walk together in the bond of friendship and deepen relationships with men who are unafraid of becoming real men, men who love God passionately, who cherish their wives, and who love and protect their children. These are the ones I am looking for, and desiring to meet with, and become closer than a brother with.

We few who meet together regularly know we need each other. We know we need to be transparent, and we also realize that this means more than talk. It means engaging where life is being walked out in the day to day morass of life, in the mundane, and in the vibrant, where the rubber meets the road. Am I there yet?

Nope. I have not come to that place of implicit trust, for I do fear rejection and hurt, and I am guarded, BUT, and again I say “but”, my guard is coming down. I am choosing to trust more and guard less. It is a journey of faith, hope and trust, casting down each time the lies of the evil one, and the ongoing threat of rejection and hurt.

I need these men. I need these issues to be wrestled out, and I need a safe place in which to work them out. A place of safety, a place where emasculated men can recover their biblical manhood without shame and find the healing that Jesus and true brotherhood has for them.

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The above blog post was written at a time when I was eclectic in my theological & biblical views and understanding.  As of 5 February 2017 I am a functional cessasionist, that is, I believe the spiritual gifts, in particular gift like the vocative, prophetic gifts as well as healing & miracles have ceased. This means that my understanding is that at the end of the apostolic era, when the last apostle died (that would be John who was at Patmos & Ephesus, the author of the Gospel of John, Epistles of John & the Revelation of Jesus Christ, with his passing, the need for these particular gifts, the oracles of God given to men through the Holy Spirit, were no longer required.  With the forming of the Canon of Scripture, there came to be no need for revelatory gifts. In fact in Revelation, John himself records the words of Jesus, “18 I testify to everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this book: If anyone adds to them, God will add to him the plagues that are written in this book. 19 And if anyone takes away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God will take away his share of the tree of life and the holy city, which are written about in this book.” [Revelation 22, CSB]

God is sovereign, still heals, still manifests in the miraculous, but not at the whim or the discretion of men. We pray and ask the Lord, and then we yield and surrender to His will, echoing the words and the spirit of Christ, “Not my will but your will be done.” [Luke 22:42].

I embrace and hold to a Reformed understanding of theology & Christian living in the world. I have abandoned my other views entirely. I would be more akin to a Reformed Baptist (1689 Confession) type of Reformed theology. I used to be a continuationist (akin to John Piper) but no longer.

God bless you as you seek to know Christ and the power of His resurrection [Philippians 3:10 CSB].

In the eternal grip of Jesus,

Samuel M. Buick

Waterloo, Ontario

29 January 2018

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About Sam Buick

A lover and disciple of Jesus Christ. Married to my best friend, Lori-Anne. Father to 3 incredible daughters, Carragh, Caitlin and Erinn, and sons-in-law Alex, and Stephen Davis. An avid reader, a Droid user, a Mac addict, a lover of footy ball and football (there is a difference), and hockey. Once a soldier. Once a youth worker. Once an ordained minister. Once a claims adjuster. I don’t mind labels, labels define what type of Christian I am: I am a creationist I am a monergist I am a Trinitarian I am an imputationalist I am a Calvinist I am a cessationist ~ Samuel M. Buick
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